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Challenges

Varina Patel —  May 10, 2013

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People ask me all the time about the challenges of my career choice… and there are many. From difficult terrain with a heavy pack on your back to ridiculous weather conditions… and so much more. But all those challenges pale in comparison to being a parent. Don’t get me wrong – I love every part of it… even the stuff that drives me nuts.

When I’m on location, I’m always ready to drop everything and head back home in case of an emergency. Scheduling an upcoming trip feels like a bad comedy… trying to work around soccer games, theater productions, doctors appointments, and parent-teacher conferences isn’t easy. Of course, getting a break from the kids – a few days in the wilderness somewhere – is a treat. But coming home is even better. Every single time.

So, I don’t talk about my kids on my blog very often (I know this isn’t what you’re here for), but today I just want to take a moment to let you know that my kids are amazing. Each and every one of them.

I love you guys! Don’t forget to brush your teeth, and watch out for falling rocks! ;)

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At the beginning of July, we spent a week in Nicaragua with Empowerment International and The Giving Lens. We spent one morning photographing Alexander’s family as they prepared for their day. This is the second in a two-part photo essay from that morning.

The four younger children stay together as they navigate the road toward the small school. The roads are dirt and at this time of year there is lots of standing water. Raw sewage and sweltering heat make this a breeding ground for bacteria and mosquitoes. There are fleas biting at my ankles as I follow them up the road. But they walk this way every day, so who am I to complain?

They jump over puddles and laugh at each others jokes. Bernardo suddenly remembers that he has forgotten his gym clothes. The others wait for him while he runs back home to get them.

As they leave the barrio, they walk along a paved road – sharing it with cars, motorcycles, bicycles… and more and more children on their way to school. Today is a testing day, so many of the children are allowed to wear street clothes instead of their typical uniforms.

The school is located on a busy street. A chain-link fence surrounds the schoolyard, but it is bent and broken.

The school is painted a bright, welcoming blue – but on this hot and humid day, there is no air conditioning. It’s hot inside already, but the kids don’t seem to mind. They are busy chatting with their friends.

The desks are old, and marked by years of use. Juana is so proud to show me where she sits each day and studies math and science and reading.

And then the bell rings, and it’s time for us to say our goodbyes.

This was an incredible trip for us. Full of laughter and hugs and human interaction… and at the same time, a overwhelming sense of injustice. These beautiful children – smart and funny and full of energy – are living with hardships that those of us in the developed world can only imagine. They don’t get enough to eat. They walk through sewage to get to school. They don’t have access to hospitals. And yet, they are smiling and cheerful. They are friendly and full of life.

It was such a pleasure to spend a few hours with them. Eye-opening. Honest. And life-altering.

Our photographs can’t do justice to the reality of the situation in the Nicaraguan slums. Keeping these kids in school is critical because an education means they can build better lives for themselves and for their families. If you want to help support the organization – or sponsor a child – go to empowermentinternational.org and find out more about what they are doing for these kids, their families, and their communities. All four of Alexander’s younger siblings are still in need of sponsors. If you can help – please do.

Just for the record – Jay and I don’t work for Empowerment International, and we’re not paid to drum up support for the organization. We’re just photographers who had an amazing opportunity to get to know some of these kids. And they made us smile.

Home in the Barrio

Varina Patel —  July 25, 2012

At the beginning of July, we spent a week in Nicaragua with Empowerment International and The Giving Lens. We spent one morning photographing Alexander’s family as they prepared for their day. It was an incredible privilege to be invited into their home. What a beautiful family!

The family lives in the heart of the barrio. Their home is built with walls of scrap metal, broken bits of wood, and heavy fabric. It is open to the elements – which means they get a nice cross-breeze when there’s a breeze at all – and that they must live with the bugs, heat, wind, and rain. The floors are dirt, and they use bed sheets to divide their small residence into rooms. Their roof is made of corrugated metal, and there are holes in it that let the rain in. They have a couple of light bulbs, a single tap with cold water, and an old TV. There’s very little privacy.

The front of the house is dedicated to a tiny storefront. There’s a hand-written sign that lists items and prices. This is where the family earns their keep.

Alexander is already awake when we arrive early in the morning. With matches and a plastic bag for kindling, he starts a fire.

His little sisters linger in bed just a little longer… then it’s time to get up and ready for school.

They bathe in their underwear, since there is no private place in the house. They use a bowl to pour water over their heads…

…and Juana helps Eveling wash her hair with soap. This is a well-rehearsed routine, and they are quick about getting the job done. The water is chilly, since they have no way to heat it for a warm bath.

The girls dry off with tattered towels, and pull their school clothes from a sack. Mama helps Eveling get dressed for school.

She combs the girls’ hair, and puts in little pony tails. She is patient and gentle with them, smiling quietly and hugging the small ones.

Breakfast is meager. A bit of powdered milk and some dry bread. The children dip their bread in their milk to soften it. Luckily, they will have a small breakfast at school later in the day. There isn’t enough to fill them up.

After breakfast, we asked the children what they wanted to be when they grew up. Sweet little Juana says she might want to be a police officer. Eveling and Genero aren’t sure. Bernardo says maybe he’ll be a photographer! We think that’s a great idea! ;)

And then it’s time for them to go. They are smiling and happy this morning. Ready to face the day.

…to be continued…

Finding the Balance

Varina Patel —  September 5, 2011

Jay and I have six kids between us. Four are mine, and two are his. They range in age from 8- 14. Here’s a shot of the six of them from a recent trip to West Virginia. Betcha can’t guess which three are adopted… or maybe you can. ;) (Don’t worry – they’re proud of the distinction.)

We are always busy – homework, school programs, soccer games, martial arts classes, show choir, and all the other things that are part of having kids. It’s great fun – but it’s also hard to find time for the things WE love to do. Lots of you have kids, too – and one of the questions we hear a lot is this:

“How do you balance family and a photographic career?”

Well, it’s not easy. We work a lot in the evenings and on weekends – and we try hard to make sure that the kids have our attention when they need it most. That means that family time is usually more important than getting those photos from our latest trip processed.

Fitting travel into a busy schedule takes creativity and lots of advance planning. We travel about once a month (if possible), and in most cases, our children stay at home with a trusted adult. Most of our trips last for just a few days – we generally travel over a long weekend – so we try hard to put ourselves in the best possible location at the right time. Research and flexibility are essential.

Before we leave home, we do some serious research. We’re looking for sunrise and sunset times, weather patterns, tide charts, topographical maps, various shooting locations, and the advice of park rangers, local residents, and other photographers. We make sure we know a lot about a variety of potential shooting locations.

Even with good information, we never decide exactly where we’ll shoot until we’re on location. We may plan a trip months in advance, but we wait until we’re there to decide where to shoot. We’re watching weather patterns to make sure we have the best possible conditions… and we’re willing to drive long distances to reach the best destinations. Our plans are constantly changing based upon cloud cover, humidity levels, and the angle of the sun.

If the weather is bad or the light isn’t right for shooting, we explore the area. We look for locations with interesting foreground and background – and we note the topography of the area for future reference. We’ll return to choice spots when conditions are right – maybe a day or two later, and maybe on another trip. We try not to waste any of our travel time, so that future trips might be more fruitful.

Although most of our trips are child-free, the kids do travel with us about once a year. This year, they joined us for a trip to West Virginia, and in past years we’ve taken them to Olympic National Park, Lake Michigan, Yellowstone, Grand Teton National Park, Dinosaur National Monument, and The Everglades. We’ve also been to Florida and Colorado with the kids. Those trips are generally geared towards the children rather than photography – so we’re less likely to shoot for our portfolios when the kids are with us. However, if the skies are fantastic, they can listen to an audio book in the car or play nearby while we shoot. These shots were taken from the side of the road in Yellowstone National Park – the kids were listening to a music CD while we photographed the storm clouds at sunset. :)

When the children are with us we choose locations that are child-friendly (no 2000 foot cliffs!), and we looked for daytime lighting conditions that accent the location. Waterfalls, for example, are just beautiful in overcast conditions – and children love the falling water.

When we travel with the kids, we’re also concerned about bed-times… so that means late sunset and early sunrise photography are not going to happen. If you can manage it, why not travel with the kids during the winter months? Our kids are all in school now, so winter travel is difficult, but younger families can take advantage of off-season hotel rates and enjoy parks without the crowds that tourist-season brings. Why not take the family to Death Valley in January or February? (Jay and I have been there many times, but not yet with the kids.) Summer weather in the Mojave Desert is remarkably unpleasant – unless you like scorching heat and bone-dry weather – but the winter months are wonderful. Death Valley is nice and warm in winter, and passing storm-fronts make for wonderful skies. When children are along, shorter winter days mean you can shoot both sunrise and sunset while your child is awake.

And best of all, a playing child makes a perfect “point of interest” for those wide angle nature shots. Although they aren’t part of my public collection, some of the photos I’ve taken of my kids are my favorite shots.

So, get out there and shoot! No excuses! :) And have fun – because that’s what having kids is all about!

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Varina Patel —  November 29, 2010

Our Thanksgiving holiday means a few days away from our ridiculously busy schedules… but we didn’t get a chance to shoot at all. So, after spending time with family and friends – and in lieu of doing anything related to photography this weekend – we shot a video with our kids.

YOU may not think it’s much – but our children are darn sure they are incredibly funny and talented. And so, without further ado… here it is for your viewing pleasure!

Family Vacation

Varina Patel —  July 4, 2010

We are here in beautiful Washington state. The kids are thrilled with everything from the little bags of snacks on the plane, to the GPS navigator in the rental car. :) Traveling with kids is great. They get excited about things that grown-ups take for granted – so we’re reminded to take a little pleasure from those things, too.

Today, we’re headed for Mount Saint Helen’s. Though I was only four years old in 1980, I have very clear memories of the ash fall in Moscow, Idaho where my family was living at the time. It was absolutely surreal – especial for a four-year-old. I remember the sky going dark in the middle of the day. The white masks my father brought home for all of us. The strange, silent “snow” that fell and covered everything. They canceled the kite-flying contest, and my siblings got out of school a few weeks early. And for months afterward, there were white drifts of ash in low places. The great power of the eruption was lost on me – so far from the mountain. My strongest memories are of the strange muffled silence of the ash fall.

I don’t have photos from Mount Saint Helen’s, yet – so I’ve posted a shot from Olympic National Park. We’re headed there tomorrow.

I’ll try to post when I can – but this trip is about the kids, not photography. So picture-taking will not be a priority. Except for family shots. :)